From the monthly archives:

July 2008

11 minutes to change your life

by Dr.Mani on July 25, 2008

RE-TWEET IT!

Does this sound dramatic?

It is.  And it isn’t.

It’s about a man I deeply admire and respect.

A man who died yesterday.

His name is Randy Pausch.

He touched my life through a presentation termed
“The Last Lecture”.

In a re-done shortened version of it on the Oprah
show, Randy summarized the gist of his 47 minute
presentation at Carnegie Mellon University.

Watch it.

Believe me – your life will NEVER be the same again.

It is 11 minutes long.

It will seem longer.

Much longer.

As long as life itself.

Here’s the link: click here to view “The Last Lecture”

Hope you find it of some use.

R.I.P. Randy Pausch.  The world will miss your wisdom.

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Got Any Red Marbles?

by Dr.Mani on July 20, 2008

RE-TWEET IT!

In another post, I wrote about “Your REAL Impact”.

I recently got this story in an email from my new friend, Dileepa. For some reason, it touched me deeply. So I’d like to share it with you.

Hope it brightens up your week!

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THE STORY OF THE RED MARBLES

I was at the corner grocery store buying some early potatoes.

I noticed a small boy, delicate of bone and feature, ragged but clean, hungrily apprizing a basket of freshly picked green peas.

I paid for my potatoes, but was also drawn to the display of fresh green peas.
I am a pushover for creamed peas and new potatoes. Pondering the peas, I couldn’t help overhearing the conversation between Mr. Miller (the store owner) and the ragged boy next to me.

‘Hello Barry, how are you today?’

‘H’lo, Mr. Miller. Fine, thank ya. Jus’ admirin’ them peas. They sure look good.’

‘They are good, Barry. How’s your Ma?’

‘Fine. Gittin’ stronger alla’ time.’

‘Good. Anything I can help you with?’

‘No, Sir. Jus’ admirin’ them peas.’

‘Would you like take some home?’ asked Mr. Miller.

‘No, Sir. Got nuthin’ to pay for ‘em with.’

‘Well, what have you to trade me for some of those peas?’

‘All I got’s my prize marble here.’

‘Is that right? Let me see it’ said Miller.

‘Here ’tis. She’s a dandy.’

‘I can see that. Hmmmmm, only thing is this one is blue and I sort of go for red. Do you have a red one like this at home?’ the store owner asked.

‘Not zackley but almost.’

‘Tell you what. Take this sack of peas home with you and next trip this way let me look at that red marble’, Mr. Miller told the boy.

‘Sure will. Thanks Mr. Miller.’

Mrs. Miller, who had been standing nearby, came over to help me.

With a smile said, ‘There are two other boys like him in our community, all three are in very poor circumstances. Jim just loves to bargain with them for peas, apples, tomatoes, or whatever.

When they come back with their red marbles, and they always do, he decides he doesn’t like red after all and he sends them home with a bag of produce for a green marble or an orange one, when they come on their next trip to the store.’

I left the store smiling to myself, impressed with this man.

A short time later I moved to Colorado , but I never forgot the story of this man, the boys, and their bartering for marbles.

Several years went by, each more rapid than the previous one.

Just recently I had occasion to visit some old friends in that Idaho community and while there I learned that Mr. Miller had died.

They were having his visitation that evening and knowing my friends wanted to go, I agreed to accompany them.

Upon arrival at the mortuary ;we fell into line to meet the relatives of the deceased and to offer whatever words of comfort we could.

Ahead of us in line were three young men.

One was in an army uniform and the other two wore nice haircuts, dark suits and white shirts…all very professional looking.

They approached Mrs. Miller, standing composed and smiling by her husband’s casket.

Each of the young men hugged her, kissed her on the cheek, spoke briefly with her and moved on to the casket.

Her misty light blue eyes followed them as, one by one, each young man stopped briefly and placed his own warm hand over the cold pale hand in the casket.

Each left the mortuary awkwardly, wiping his eyes.

Our turn came to meet Mrs. Miller. I told her who I was and reminded her of the story from those many years ag o and what she had told me about her husband’s bartering for marbles.

With her eyes glistening, she took my hand and led me to the casket;

‘Those three young men who just left were the boys I told you about. They just told me how they appreciated the things Jim ‘traded’ them. Now, at last, when Jim could not change his mind about color or size….they came to pay their debt.’

‘We’ve never had a great deal of the wealth of this world,’ she confided, ‘but right now, Jim would consider himself the richest man in Idaho’.

With loving gentleness she lifted the lifeless fingers of her deceased husband.

Resting underneath were three exquisitely shined red marbles.

We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds. Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath.

Today I wish you a day of ordinary miracles -

A fresh pot of coffee you didn’t make yourself.

An unexpected phone call from an old friend.

Green stoplights on your way to work.

The fastest line at the grocery store.

A good old sing-along song on the radio.

Your keys found right where you left them.

Share this with the people you’ll never forget.

I just did…

It’s not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived

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To the list of “moments that take our breath”, I’ll add this:

“A cube of ice dropped down the back of your shirt by your wife!”

It happened to me this morning! ;-)

Anyway…

Did you like the story?

It shows just what impact YOU can have on YOUR world.

Now, as the Nike ad says: “Just Do It!” :)

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Anyone Else Wonder Why…

There’s a section/category to this blog titled ‘WISDOM’.
In it, I share lessons from my life.
Have you ever wondered WHY I do this?
If you’ve watched Randy Pausch’s ‘The Last Lecture’ (if you haven’t, go click that link now – or when you next have time – and invest the most life changing 47 minutes you’ve EVER [...]

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Your REAL Impact

As a young 22-year old medical graduate, I played mind games – on myself! They were necessary. Some things needed to have meaning.
Like when a drug addict with sores all over his body, a glazed, lifeless look in his eyes, in extreme malnutrition, and with a non-existent will to live is dropped off [...]

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First, Do It – Then…

When my dad graduated from high school, his father made him an ‘offer he couldn’t refuse’.
Become a doctor. Or go back to the village and tend to farming on our lands.
The problem with this offer was that dad wanted to be a school teacher. He loved Tamil and wanted to teach the language [...]

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Dr.Mani Writes a Book, But…

I catch up with Seth Godin’s blog once every month or so. I’d do it more often, except my head ends up hurting from the way he keeps stretching my brain!
Yesterday, I found something on it about an interesting new way to write a book. And that reminded me of a book I’ve [...]

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WHAT are you ALWAYS selling?

Ten minutes in the shower this morning brought many things into sharp and sudden focus. Discrete, almost random thoughts suddenly snapped together to form a startlingly clear picture.
It Was Like I Saw “The Truth”!
The moment was incredibly exciting. In my hurry, I nicked myself shaving. Rushing out to my computer, I called [...]

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Cut The Clutter

I was born to a ‘hoarder’. My mom still saves stuff from when I was one year old – and earlier!
I married a ‘hoarder’ – though a constant struggle is ‘reforming’ her a bit! (don’t tell her I said it, though)
I gave birth to a ‘hoarder’. Age for age, her collection [...]

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Dr.Mani has Google Fun!

More details about ‘Google Fun’ – click here
Credit for this tip goes to Ed Dale – join his ‘30 Day Challenge’, it’s free!

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Who am I?

The question has haunted me for years.
As a 3rd year medical student, on our first posting in the clinical medicine unit, our professor asked us a question.
“Why did you decide to become a doctor?”
The ensuing interrogation was penetrating and funny. It might go like this with one student.
“Sir, because my father is a doctor [...]

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