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October 2009

Why I Liked "This Is It"

by Dr.Mani on October 31, 2009

This Is It

Every Michael Jackson fan should watch “This Is It”. No question about it. You WILL love it!

Others who don’t really love Michael’s music may not be wildly excited about watching the King of Pop rehearse for what would most certainly have been a musical extravanganza to blow our minds.

Anyway, “This Is It” mattered to me for many reasons other than simply because Michael Jackson is my all-time favorite entertainer.

1. Practice.

Here is a man who has thrilled audiences of MILLIONS of devoted fans with his talent and skill. And in “This Is It” we see the reason why. No, it’s not only because Michael Jackson was blessed with an incredible and rare gift. It was also because he was in such great touch from constant practice.

The entire movie was made of clips recorded during rehearsal sessions, and originally meant for his private library. Considering that there was no reason to “play to the peanut gallery” in these candid ‘behind the scenes’ shots, it’s an eye-opener to see just how much effort, repeated practice and rehearsing goes into creating something world-class.

2. Perfection.

Michael Jackson, by all accounts, was a master craftsman. He knew his music, every part of every song he sang and performed, the notes, the tempo, the rhythm, the instrumentation and just about every component of the entire process.

He is hands-on with every bit of the production, offering gentle suggestions and indicating whether or not each part was just as he intended or wanted it to be. And doing it all, not by being touchy or arrogant or condescending, but in the most easy-to-accept way of all – by placing the focus on delighting their audience.

“I want them to see it the way they should” he says in his soft voice.

Minor deviations from the perfect performance are picked upon instantly. “You’re a bit too early with that,” he says. “Let it sizzle”. Or suggests making it sound “like dragging you out of bed”. Or… “That’s too fast. Da-da-da… pause. There. Just a little”. Tiny tweaks, for sure. But that’s how perfection happens!

3. Passion.

Michael loves to sing and dance. He gets involved, body and soul, in the practice sessions. You can see and sense the passion in his expression, the tone of his voice, the enthusiasm of his actions. It reaches out and engulfs everyone on the team.

And the entire team shares that passion. At the very start of “This Is It”, we hear dancers who auditioned tell about their experience. Their words drip with passion. One man from Australia was almost crying.

A Michael Jackson show is about pushing beyond boundaries, creating something no one has seen before, exploring the limits of what one is capable of doing – and being. Given the raw talent of the final cast, only passion would make the difference between ‘just another show’ – and a ‘once in a lifetime event’

4. Participation.

Everyone participates in the rehearsals – even when they aren’t practicing! When they’re not on stage, they are watching others perform… and cheering, raving and celebrating – just as real fans would have, if the show had gone on.

The key to that is revealed in the end of the movie, when they all stand around in a circle – and Michael says how proud he is to be a part of this team, thanks them for their support, and calls them “family”. In a sense they are… and that’s why they participate so enthusiastically in everything.

5. Personification.

Not everyone will have sensed it – or even agree with me on this. But I felt it strongly. Michael Jackson is the personification of the songs he sings, the dance moves he makes. He BECOMES his performance!

Other dancers are good. They are energetic, technically sound, carry out some awesome steps. But MJ is great… because you can see how he FEELS the music. And moves WITH it.

When an artist identifies with his art to reach this point, it is almost as if we are watching something abstract come alive. The personification of pop music.

That’s how I’ll remember Michael Jackson after watching “This Is It”.

That, and as a genius and consummate artist driven by a passion to share his talent with the world through his music.

A man who was not afraid to practice hard for a come-back concert after a decade off the stage.

A producer and manager who would settle for nothing less than perfection.

A celebrity who assembled a passionate cast around him, motivated and excited about being part of a show that in all probability would have been a memorable landmark event in pop music history.

THIS IS IT!

Also, see Words, Music and Impact and RIP MJ

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Funny Friends

by Dr.Mani on October 19, 2009

I have many friends. REAL friends. Some of them have been my friends for 35 years!

A few of us meet often, regularly. Others get together every few weeks or months. And some I meet only every few years or so.

Whenever we do, it’s as if there hadn’t been any gap. We continue conversations where they left off. We share thoughts, ideas and feelings. We feel comfortable with each other.

And sometimes, we argue about things. Or even give each other harsh advice – in our best interests.

Last week, one of my friends came home to chat. In the course of our conversation, I had to be very firm and persuasive about a deal he was involved in. It was for property he owned worth a million dollars – yet he was shirking his due diligence. I insisted he get more ‘hands on’.

At times, I was rudely pushy, obnoxiously insistent and borderline insulting.

After a few minutes of listening to my tirade, he nodded slowly and said:

“Ok, I understand what you’re saying. I’ll get more involved and study the details carefully.”

I quickly apologized for the tone and urgency of my words, but he cut me short, saying:

“I know why you’re doing this. It’s in my best interest!”

We moved on to talk about other things for an hour longer, and then he left.

This scene is fairly typical of how meetings with my friends go. Sometimes, I’m on the receiving end of tough love. Always, the spirit behind it is caring, compassionate and concerned.

When I got involved with my work online, the reach of my network grew exponentially. And brought me into contact with many new people. Some of them have become really good friends.

But there are others who are… well, I’ll call them “funny friends” – and you’ll see why shortly.

Funny Friends

Facebook lets you call them ‘friends’. Twitter gives them an even more ego-friendly term – ‘followers’. And folks who often lack the experience of true friendship in their offline world mistake this for the real thing!

When people who have never before taken a lead in anything offline suddenly find themselves at the head of a motley crowd (with these fancy titles), they imagine themselves as popular cheer-leaders or super-jocks of their online virtuality.

And this leads to funny behavior.

They expect ‘friends’ to be fans who always flatter and fawn on them, evangelize their ideas (regardless of merit or value), and never criticize or down-play their ‘drama queen’ moments.

Of course, ‘funny friends’ do these things for them – but real friends will not!

Don’t Let Their Funniness Get You!

Over the last month, I’ve had somewhat acrimonious exchanges with three such ‘funny friends’.

One was a guy I’ve never met in person – yet know pretty well from online exchanges… as a person congenitally incapable of accepting criticism, never mind how warranted or justified it is (there’s always a way to ’spin’ it to make the other person appear wrong).

Another is sneering, condescending and supercilious in responses to anything that may even remotely challenge his ‘considered views’ – on all matters (never mind that some of those views are ‘way out there’!)

A third is someone I know marginally from online interactions, and judge to be a basically nice person – yet has one weak spot… a reluctance to have ideas challenged or opinions questioned.

In each case, I had pointed out (a lot more politely than I typically do with my real friends) what I perceived to be mistakes or mis-perceptions in their points of view – and they didn’t like it.

Until recently, I let myself be influenced (and hurt) by their attitude of being “wronged by a friend” – until I suddenly realized that the concept of “funny friends” was what had bamboozled and blinded me.

No way are these people – and the dozens like them – my REAL friends.

By no stretch of imagination do they compare with my actual friends. And so, no way are they entitled to the respect, admiration and love I reserve for (and lavish on) my true friends!

These are “funny friends” who mistake

  • commenting on a blog

  • partnering on a promotion
  • a casual meeting at an event
  • endorsing a viewpoint
  • being an affiliate
  • discussing on bulletin boards
  • or any similar equivalent online activity

…a surrogate for true friendship.

That’s a warped point of view, for sure. And when it is imposed upon you, it feels restrictive – until you realize what it is… and reject it!

Who needs “funny friends” when you can have the real kind, right?

Can we come up, collaboratively, with a set of questions – the answers of which will help weed out “funny friends” and identify real ones?

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Barbers, Movies & Minds

Today, I had a haircut and watched a movie.
Nothing spectacular – yet it was special. Here’s how.
Ready to step out, I asked my wife and daughter (rhetorically!):
“Which barber should I visit? The usual one? Or someone new?”
The two young ladies in my life glanced quickly at each other, smiled, and then one [...]

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Being IN the Long Tail of Non-Profits

Chris Anderson’s “Long Tail”, as a concept, exists in the world of non-profits too. And I’m right IN it!
This morning, I was reading Beth Kanter’s post on how to leverage non-profits on Twitter, and saw that Twitter (the social media network with several million users) was now featuring a list of “suggested users” – [...]

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Transparency, Authenticity, & Trust

Today, I posted my 10,000th tweet on Twitter. And of these thousands, one has been very widely re-tweeted… it says:

“Transparency is the new risk – Authenticity is the new currency – Trust is the new reward.”
Maybe because it encapsulates the essence of social media networking. Or maybe because it sounds nice and snappy. [...]

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What Do You Want?

Do you really KNOW what you want to do (or become) in your life?
If you said “No”, or “I don’t know” or “I’m not sure”, then my next question to you is:
“Do you WANT to know?”
If you said “Yes”, or “That would be nice”, or “I think so”, then my next question to you is:
“How [...]

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