Comments on: I'm Not Rude or Arrogant, Just (gulp)… SHY! http://iheartz.com/moneypowerwisdom/im-not-rude-or-arrogant-just-gulp-shy/ A blog by Dr.Mani, heart surgeon, Internet infopreneur, author and social entrepreneur! Wed, 07 Jul 2010 12:16:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Chris Brogan... http://iheartz.com/moneypowerwisdom/im-not-rude-or-arrogant-just-gulp-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-144 Chris Brogan... Thu, 04 Oct 2007 11:35:52 +0000 http://guydz.com/moneypowerwisdom/im-not-rude-or-arrogant-just-gulp-shy/#comment-144 I have a good friend who comes off as arrogant all the time in large social settings. She scowls at people, refuses to wave to others saying hi across the room. She rarely even acknowledges others not standing in her close social circle, as if they're not even there. Her true crime? She refuses to wear her glasses, and doesn't own contacts. She can't SEE. When I think about "rude," I usually have about forty or so qualifiers such as the above. Sometimes, people are agoraphobic. Other times, they have speech impediments they don't want to announce. I look for all the angles. And then, there are folks who are just asses. Those tend to leave a trail. : ) I have a good friend who comes off as arrogant all the time in large social settings. She scowls at people, refuses to wave to others saying hi across the room. She rarely even acknowledges others not standing in her close social circle, as if they’re not even there.

Her true crime? She refuses to wear her glasses, and doesn’t own contacts. She can’t SEE.

When I think about “rude,” I usually have about forty or so qualifiers such as the above. Sometimes, people are agoraphobic. Other times, they have speech impediments they don’t want to announce. I look for all the angles.

And then, there are folks who are just asses. Those tend to leave a trail. : )

]]> By: Mike Paetzold http://iheartz.com/moneypowerwisdom/im-not-rude-or-arrogant-just-gulp-shy/comment-page-1/#comment-143 Mike Paetzold Thu, 04 Oct 2007 03:56:51 +0000 http://guydz.com/moneypowerwisdom/im-not-rude-or-arrogant-just-gulp-shy/#comment-143 Well this is an interesting topic, and there may be a few that are actually shy. I have seen people come into a forum and be a jerk and then turn around and end up being a contributor. Usually they just did not understand forum ettiquette and were told to use forums and post a lot by someone. Others will just go away. Those are probably the shy ones. Then the majority are jerks and end up starting flame after flame until they are either banned or ignored. The "Don't Feed The Trolls " rule usually does them in quickly but it is hard not to respond at times. Well this is an interesting topic, and there may be a few that are actually shy.

I have seen people come into a forum and be a jerk and then turn around and end up being a contributor. Usually they just did not understand forum ettiquette and were told to use forums and post a lot by someone.

Others will just go away. Those are probably the shy ones.

Then the majority are jerks and end up starting flame after flame until they are either banned or ignored. The “Don’t Feed The Trolls ” rule usually does them in quickly but it is hard not to respond at times.

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